Cheyenne Youth Alternatives shares tips to making blended families work

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CHEYENNE, Wyo. (WYOMING NEWS NOW) -- Making Blended Families Work

Blended families are increasingly more common in today’s world but still no less difficult to manage. These are some things to think about when making this change in your family.

Talk about parenting styles first

a. Blending two families is not something that should be figured out as you go.
b. Take the time to have a conversation about parenting styles before you bring the households together to make sure you’re both on the same page.
c. What can happen is couples don’t talk about this and end up having problems later because they can’t match up their parenting strategies.
d. Make sure to talk about this beforehand to find common ground.

Establish rules

a. Come up with a plan together including rules, rewards, and consequences that are going to work for everyone.
b. You can include the kids in this process to help them buy into it more.
c. Being clear on the rules of the house is going to be especially important so that the children know what’s expected of them.
d. No matter what, make sure you and your partner are on the same page.

Limit your expectations

a. We can’t expect everyone to love and trust one another off the bat.
b. And if this is your expectation, unfortunately more than likely you may be disappointed.
c. Understand that you and your spouse are going to have to invest in each other and the family before that kind of bond is built, which takes time.

Take it slow

a. Don’t rush things or force too many changes all at once.
b. Too much disruption is going to make it harder for both the kids and you as parents.
c. Take it slow and get to know each other before jumping in.
d. A slow transition will make it easier for everyone in the long run.